Saturday, September 29, 2012
Madonna's Here!
Friday, September 28, 2012
Folsom Post-analysis
I got back from Folsom on Tuesday, but surprise, surprise, I ended up with flu symptoms halfway through the trip and had to curtail my activities quite a bit. Luckily I didn't feel full-blown sick until Monday morning and spent most of this week sleeping, and I was able to take in most of the fun activities going on on the weekend.
We went to the Recon Full Fetish Party on Friday at Sound Factory. It was a lot of fun, well attended, but not outrageously packed as the Saturday Magnitude party at the same venue tends to be, so there really weren't any lineups or claustrophobic moments. I met new people had a lot of fun and got to perve out in rubber. I was impressed to see a LOT of latex at the party.
I woke up Saturday lacking energy and feeling listless. It took me most of the day to catch my bearings, the crowds at Mr. S were insane in the afternoon so I spent as little time there as possible and held off my purchases until Monday when I knew no one would be in the store (alas, neither was any of the inventory). The Rubber Men of San Francisco Bay Conversion Party started at 17:00 and Rick had asked me to help out with the performance so we had a quick rehearsal at 15:30 and I was back around 18:00. It was very busy though there were a lot of cotton men there, obviously oblivious to the fact there was a rubber party going on, but we had fun anyways. The performance was fun, with Collin Wood, Mr. Midwest Rubber 2012 being 'converted' by Rick and I into a rubberman. This included a lot of black liquid latex which was administered on a latex hood over his head, then we ripped off his painter's smock to reveal a black catsuit. I ended getting some splashback on my white suit from the spray, however later on a volunteer came up for a full-body painting, which resulted in black liquid latex getting splattered everywhere. Rick must've done a good cleanup because most traces of it were gone by Monday when I was in Powerhouse next, however I know a lot of personal items got covered too, and I'm not so sure what happened there.
I'm not sure why RMSF uses Powerhouse for the party. They might have a good relationship, but I find the venue way too small for everything that's going on and personally I find it kinda gross, sanitation-wise. Do all the gay bars in SOMA smell like old urine and draft or is it just me? Are there any 'nice' bars in SF?
The RMSF were doing a flag processional to the Center for Sex and Culture where they dedicated the original Rubber Pride Flag to the SF Bay Area Leather Alliance to become part of the colors for the Leather Community. I had to bolt to C's birthday party at 8pm and was unable to attend. C's 40th birthday party was a lot of fun and while everyone else headed to Magnitude after the party I headed back to the hotel to crash. Apparently this was the right thing to do because I felt human in the morning and I heard later that Magnitude was what I expected it to be: overcapacity, frustrating, and unwhelming for the price. I'm glad I decided not to go; I had been two years ago and 'meh'ed about it then, though I met some nice guys there I still talk with.
Sunday was the Street Fair which is always a highlight of the weekend. We had a lot of fun traipsing and squeezing through the crowds, running into friends, checking out booths. We didn't get there until pretty late around 2pm because freaking parking and traffic took a good hour. We actually ran out of time to see everything we wanted to see, but that's the way it was. It was a beautiful afternoon and the crowds were huge, energetic, and bizarre...perfect!
We decided to go to the Deviants dance party Sunday night and this did not disappoint. I haven't danced so much in a long time! Initially there were two indoor dance rooms and one outdoor one. The crowd was pretty sloppy at the start since many would've come straight from the street fair, but by the end things had sorta become gay and slutty again :)
This party was $30 compared to Real Bad 3 which was $100 and I'm sure I had as much fun or more at Deviants than I would have at the other one. Isn't everyone simply getting a little sketchy and unattractive by Sunday of a fetish weekend?!!?!? ;)
It was a late-ending night, and I woke up Monday morning feeling deathly ill. Whatever I'd been fighting off all weekend was finally starting to break my defenses. The day consisted of Mr. S Shopping, a job interview, C getting a P.A. and Y getting his enlarged. Dinner in SOMA and I was in bed by 10pm.
So, this is the third fetish weekend in a row that I've ended up with the flu. Certainly the initial late nights have something to do with it; but I do that at home all the time. Maybe also the change in diet, patterns of sleep, air travel and energy levels in the days leading up to travel have something to do with it. All I know is that after what I've had to endure after MIR last year, WCR this spring and now Folsom, I need to approach MIR 2013 in five week's time much differently or this shit is going to happen again. Wish me luck trying to figure this all out.
Now Mr. P is sick; I was starting to feel human again yesterday. Thank god one of us is usually up when the other one is down, lord help us if we both crash and burn at the same time :(
We went to the Recon Full Fetish Party on Friday at Sound Factory. It was a lot of fun, well attended, but not outrageously packed as the Saturday Magnitude party at the same venue tends to be, so there really weren't any lineups or claustrophobic moments. I met new people had a lot of fun and got to perve out in rubber. I was impressed to see a LOT of latex at the party.
I woke up Saturday lacking energy and feeling listless. It took me most of the day to catch my bearings, the crowds at Mr. S were insane in the afternoon so I spent as little time there as possible and held off my purchases until Monday when I knew no one would be in the store (alas, neither was any of the inventory). The Rubber Men of San Francisco Bay Conversion Party started at 17:00 and Rick had asked me to help out with the performance so we had a quick rehearsal at 15:30 and I was back around 18:00. It was very busy though there were a lot of cotton men there, obviously oblivious to the fact there was a rubber party going on, but we had fun anyways. The performance was fun, with Collin Wood, Mr. Midwest Rubber 2012 being 'converted' by Rick and I into a rubberman. This included a lot of black liquid latex which was administered on a latex hood over his head, then we ripped off his painter's smock to reveal a black catsuit. I ended getting some splashback on my white suit from the spray, however later on a volunteer came up for a full-body painting, which resulted in black liquid latex getting splattered everywhere. Rick must've done a good cleanup because most traces of it were gone by Monday when I was in Powerhouse next, however I know a lot of personal items got covered too, and I'm not so sure what happened there.
I'm not sure why RMSF uses Powerhouse for the party. They might have a good relationship, but I find the venue way too small for everything that's going on and personally I find it kinda gross, sanitation-wise. Do all the gay bars in SOMA smell like old urine and draft or is it just me? Are there any 'nice' bars in SF?
The RMSF were doing a flag processional to the Center for Sex and Culture where they dedicated the original Rubber Pride Flag to the SF Bay Area Leather Alliance to become part of the colors for the Leather Community. I had to bolt to C's birthday party at 8pm and was unable to attend. C's 40th birthday party was a lot of fun and while everyone else headed to Magnitude after the party I headed back to the hotel to crash. Apparently this was the right thing to do because I felt human in the morning and I heard later that Magnitude was what I expected it to be: overcapacity, frustrating, and unwhelming for the price. I'm glad I decided not to go; I had been two years ago and 'meh'ed about it then, though I met some nice guys there I still talk with.
Sunday was the Street Fair which is always a highlight of the weekend. We had a lot of fun traipsing and squeezing through the crowds, running into friends, checking out booths. We didn't get there until pretty late around 2pm because freaking parking and traffic took a good hour. We actually ran out of time to see everything we wanted to see, but that's the way it was. It was a beautiful afternoon and the crowds were huge, energetic, and bizarre...perfect!
We decided to go to the Deviants dance party Sunday night and this did not disappoint. I haven't danced so much in a long time! Initially there were two indoor dance rooms and one outdoor one. The crowd was pretty sloppy at the start since many would've come straight from the street fair, but by the end things had sorta become gay and slutty again :)
This party was $30 compared to Real Bad 3 which was $100 and I'm sure I had as much fun or more at Deviants than I would have at the other one. Isn't everyone simply getting a little sketchy and unattractive by Sunday of a fetish weekend?!!?!? ;)
It was a late-ending night, and I woke up Monday morning feeling deathly ill. Whatever I'd been fighting off all weekend was finally starting to break my defenses. The day consisted of Mr. S Shopping, a job interview, C getting a P.A. and Y getting his enlarged. Dinner in SOMA and I was in bed by 10pm.
So, this is the third fetish weekend in a row that I've ended up with the flu. Certainly the initial late nights have something to do with it; but I do that at home all the time. Maybe also the change in diet, patterns of sleep, air travel and energy levels in the days leading up to travel have something to do with it. All I know is that after what I've had to endure after MIR last year, WCR this spring and now Folsom, I need to approach MIR 2013 in five week's time much differently or this shit is going to happen again. Wish me luck trying to figure this all out.
Now Mr. P is sick; I was starting to feel human again yesterday. Thank god one of us is usually up when the other one is down, lord help us if we both crash and burn at the same time :(
Monday, September 24, 2012
Wednesday, September 19, 2012
The List
I've seen a 'comprehensive' list before, but this one is nice, brief and tidy. My paraphilias are lame when you look at the breadth of interests that are categorized.
List of Paraphilias
This is a list of paraphilias, defined as powerful and persistent sexual interest other than in copulatory or precopulatory behavior with phenotypically normal, consenting adult human partners. Some paraphilias have more than one term to describe them, and some terms overlap with others. Paraphilias without DSM codes listed come under DSM 302.9, "Paraphilia NOS (Not Otherwise Specified)". A 2009 list contains a total of 547 paraphilias, but leads with the statement that "Not all these paraphilias have necessarily been seen in clinical setups. This may not be because they do not exist, but because they are so innocuous they are never brought to the notice of clinicians. Like allergies, sexual arousal may occur from anything under the sun, including the sun."
Name - Object of attraction/arousal
A
*Abasiophilia - People with impaired mobility
*Acrotomophilia - People with amputations
*Agalmatophilia - Statues, mannequins and immobility
*Algolagnia - SEE BELOW
*Andromimetophilia - Female-to-male transsexuals
*Apotemnophilia - Having an amputation
*Asphyxiophilia - Asphixiation or strangulation
*Autagonistophilia - Being on stage or on camera
*Autassassinophilia - Being in life-threatening situations
*Autoandrophilia - Arousal by a biological female imagining herself as a male
*Autoerotic asphixiation - Self-induced asphyxiation, sometimes to the point of near unconsciousness
*Autogynephilia - Arousal by a biological male imagining himself as a female
*Autopedophilia - Being prepubescent
B
*Biastophilia - Arousal based on the rape of an unconsenting person
C
*Chremastistophilia - Being robbed or held up
*Chronophilia - Partners of a widely differing chronological age
*Coprophilia - Feces; also known as scat, scatophilia or fecophilia
D
*Dacryphilia - Tears or crying
*Dendrophilia - Trees
E
*Emetophilia - Vomit
*Erotic asphyxiation - Asphyxia of oneself or others
*Erotophonophilia - Murder
*Exhibitionism - Exposing oneself sexually to others, with or without their consent
F
*Formicophilia - Being crawled on by insects
*Frotteurism - Rubbing against a non-consenting person.
G
*Gerontophilia - Elderly people
*Gynandromorphophilia - Women with penises, men cross-dressed as women, or m-to-f transsexuals
H
*Hebephilia - Pubescent children (ages 12-14)
*Homeovestism - Wearing clothing emblematic of one's own sex
*Hybristophilia - Criminals, particularly for cruel or outrageous crimes
I
*Infantophilia - Children five years old or younger
K
*Kleptophilia - Stealing; also known as kleptolagnia
*Klismaphilia - Enemas
*Lactaphilia - Breast milk
*Liquidophilia - Attraction, or desire to immerse genitals in liquids
M
*Macrophilia - Giants, primarily domination by giant women or men (generally in the person's imagination)
*Mammaphilia - Breasts; also known as mammagynophilia and mastofact
*Masochism - The desire to suffer, be beaten, bound or otherwise humiliated
*Menophilia - Menstruation
*Morphophilia - Particular body shapes or sizes
*Mucophilia - Mucus
*Mysophilia - Dirtiness, soiled or decaying things
N
*Narratophilia - Obscene words, colloquially known as "talking dirty"
*Nasophilia - Noses
*Necrophilia - Cadavers
O
*Olfactophilia - Smells
P
*Paraphilic infantilism - Being a baby; also referred to as autonepiophilia
*Partialism - Specific, non-genital body parts
*Paedophilia - Prepubescent children, also spelled pedophilia (ages 5-11)
*Peodeiktophilia - Exposing one's penis
*Pedovestism - Dressing like a child
*Pictophilia - Pornography or erotic art, particularly pictures
*Pyrophilia - Fire
R
*Raptophilia - Committing rape
S
*Sadism - Inflicting pain on others
*Salirophilia - Soiling or dirtying others
*Scoptophilia - Observing others' sexual activities; also known as scopophilia and more commonly as voyeurism
*Sexual fetishism - Nonliving objects
*Somnophilia - Sleeping or unconscious people
*Sthenolagnia - Muscles and displays of strength
*Stigmatophilia - Body piercings and tattoos
*Symphorophilia - Witnessing or staging disasters such as car accidents
T
*Telephone scatologia - Obscene phone calls, particularly to strangers; also known as telephonicophilia
*Transvestic fetishism - Wearing clothes associated with the opposite sex; also known as transvestism
*Transvestophilia A transvestite sexual partner
*Trichophilia - Hair
*Troilism - Cuckoldism, watching one's partner have sex with someone else, possibly without the third party's knowledge; also known as triolism
U
*Urolagnia - Urination, particularly in public, on others, and/or being urinated on
*Ursusagalmatophilia - Teddy bears
V
*Vampirism - Drawing or drinking blood
*Vorarephilia - Eating or being eaten by others; usually swallowed whole, in one piece (I'm guessing in the person's imagination...)
*Voyeurism - Watching others while naked or having sex, generally without their knowledge
Z
*Zoophilia - Animals (actual, not anthropomorphic, meaning, not furries)
*Zoosadism - Inflicting pain on or seeing animals in pain
And technical terms for non-para, philias:
* Androphilia: Sexual interest in men
* Analloerotic: Lacking in sexual interests towards others (but not lacking in sexual drive—see asexuality)
* Ephebophilia: Sexual preference for individuals in mid-to-late adolescence, typically ages 15–19.
* Gynephilia: Sexual interest in women
* Teleiophilia: Sexual interest in adults (as opposed to pedophilia, etc.)
** Algolagnia is defined as a sexual tendency towards pain, particularly involving an erogenous zone; differs from masochism and paraphilias as there is a biologically different interpretation of the sensation rather than a subjective interpretation**
Name - Object of attraction/arousal
A
*Abasiophilia - People with impaired mobility
*Acrotomophilia - People with amputations
*Agalmatophilia - Statues, mannequins and immobility
*Algolagnia - SEE BELOW
*Andromimetophilia - Female-to-male transsexuals
*Apotemnophilia - Having an amputation
*Asphyxiophilia - Asphixiation or strangulation
*Autagonistophilia - Being on stage or on camera
*Autassassinophilia - Being in life-threatening situations
*Autoandrophilia - Arousal by a biological female imagining herself as a male
*Autoerotic asphixiation - Self-induced asphyxiation, sometimes to the point of near unconsciousness
*Autogynephilia - Arousal by a biological male imagining himself as a female
*Autopedophilia - Being prepubescent
B
*Biastophilia - Arousal based on the rape of an unconsenting person
C
*Chremastistophilia - Being robbed or held up
*Chronophilia - Partners of a widely differing chronological age
*Coprophilia - Feces; also known as scat, scatophilia or fecophilia
D
*Dacryphilia - Tears or crying
*Dendrophilia - Trees
E
*Emetophilia - Vomit
*Erotic asphyxiation - Asphyxia of oneself or others
*Erotophonophilia - Murder
*Exhibitionism - Exposing oneself sexually to others, with or without their consent
F
*Formicophilia - Being crawled on by insects
*Frotteurism - Rubbing against a non-consenting person.
G
*Gerontophilia - Elderly people
*Gynandromorphophilia - Women with penises, men cross-dressed as women, or m-to-f transsexuals
H
*Hebephilia - Pubescent children (ages 12-14)
*Homeovestism - Wearing clothing emblematic of one's own sex
*Hybristophilia - Criminals, particularly for cruel or outrageous crimes
I
*Infantophilia - Children five years old or younger
K
*Kleptophilia - Stealing; also known as kleptolagnia
*Klismaphilia - Enemas
*Lactaphilia - Breast milk
*Liquidophilia - Attraction, or desire to immerse genitals in liquids
M
*Macrophilia - Giants, primarily domination by giant women or men (generally in the person's imagination)
*Mammaphilia - Breasts; also known as mammagynophilia and mastofact
*Masochism - The desire to suffer, be beaten, bound or otherwise humiliated
*Menophilia - Menstruation
*Morphophilia - Particular body shapes or sizes
*Mucophilia - Mucus
*Mysophilia - Dirtiness, soiled or decaying things
N
*Narratophilia - Obscene words, colloquially known as "talking dirty"
*Nasophilia - Noses
*Necrophilia - Cadavers
O
*Olfactophilia - Smells
P
*Paraphilic infantilism - Being a baby; also referred to as autonepiophilia
*Partialism - Specific, non-genital body parts
*Paedophilia - Prepubescent children, also spelled pedophilia (ages 5-11)
*Peodeiktophilia - Exposing one's penis
*Pedovestism - Dressing like a child
*Pictophilia - Pornography or erotic art, particularly pictures
*Pyrophilia - Fire
R
*Raptophilia - Committing rape
S
*Sadism - Inflicting pain on others
*Salirophilia - Soiling or dirtying others
*Scoptophilia - Observing others' sexual activities; also known as scopophilia and more commonly as voyeurism
*Sexual fetishism - Nonliving objects
*Somnophilia - Sleeping or unconscious people
*Sthenolagnia - Muscles and displays of strength
*Stigmatophilia - Body piercings and tattoos
*Symphorophilia - Witnessing or staging disasters such as car accidents
T
*Telephone scatologia - Obscene phone calls, particularly to strangers; also known as telephonicophilia
*Transvestic fetishism - Wearing clothes associated with the opposite sex; also known as transvestism
*Transvestophilia A transvestite sexual partner
*Trichophilia - Hair
*Troilism - Cuckoldism, watching one's partner have sex with someone else, possibly without the third party's knowledge; also known as triolism
U
*Urolagnia - Urination, particularly in public, on others, and/or being urinated on
*Ursusagalmatophilia - Teddy bears
V
*Vampirism - Drawing or drinking blood
*Vorarephilia - Eating or being eaten by others; usually swallowed whole, in one piece (I'm guessing in the person's imagination...)
*Voyeurism - Watching others while naked or having sex, generally without their knowledge
Z
*Zoophilia - Animals (actual, not anthropomorphic, meaning, not furries)
*Zoosadism - Inflicting pain on or seeing animals in pain
And technical terms for non-para, philias:
* Androphilia: Sexual interest in men
* Analloerotic: Lacking in sexual interests towards others (but not lacking in sexual drive—see asexuality)
* Ephebophilia: Sexual preference for individuals in mid-to-late adolescence, typically ages 15–19.
* Gynephilia: Sexual interest in women
* Teleiophilia: Sexual interest in adults (as opposed to pedophilia, etc.)
** Algolagnia is defined as a sexual tendency towards pain, particularly involving an erogenous zone; differs from masochism and paraphilias as there is a biologically different interpretation of the sensation rather than a subjective interpretation**
Tuesday, September 18, 2012
Gimp Inflation
Here's a nice submissive vid by Covvy. He is tied down and plugged with an inflatable butt plug (personally, one of my favorite toys!) This is pretty hot. I first saw it on Rubberbound's blog.
Monday, September 17, 2012
Sunday, September 16, 2012
Slick Marketing
Montreal's Fetiche Armada teamed up with the Bay to create the display windows at La Baie centre-ville in downtown Montreal to promote Lady Gaga's new "Fame" perfume. The windows look GREAT!!!
Encased
encased in latex 2 - MyVideo
Loving the encasement....no breathing hole is a nice touch, albeit dangerous.
Friday, September 14, 2012
Asslock!
I love the fact the bottom is chained in place....is it wrong that I find this arousing? It's ironic that such devices used to be used as torture devices in the medieval ages for loose women and homosexuals...ah, catholic church, is there any sin you didn't punish with anguishing pain? Of course, those ones literally ripped your insides apart, now these devices have been modified for absolute 'deviant' pleasure. Take that, catholic church! Karma's a bitch, I suppose.
I'm off to Whistler this weekend for the Vancouver Men in Leather weekend in Creekside. 50 leathermen in a cabin....I wonder what's going to happen? All I know is I'm taking rubber for a photoshoot in the woods and the sling and frame. It will be fun regardless, the weather's supposed to be fantastic, we have our own private acreage and nude beach. Lots of pics to follow, I hope! :)
Wednesday, September 12, 2012
Raw and Sore
Hmm. While everyone is losing their shit today over a fucking 'new' shit-sandwich phone, I have something I really want to write about that has been bothering more and more.
First of all, my rant on FB this morning:
Just to warn you...this is probably going to piss some people off. That's not my intent, but I have a very clear stance on this that I intend to hold for a long, long time. We're all (supposedly) free to make our own decisions, so keep in mind this is my OPINION only.
As I'm sure all of you have witnessed, protection-free sex has basically become the norm in all gay porn out there now, in particular most of what's come out the past couple of years. I respect the big production companies for sticking to their principles and protecting all of their workers while promoting civilized public health messages, but everything and everyone smaller and amateurish have basically eschewed condoms for 'natural and impulsive' sex scenes. The last straw was seeing 'The Bareback Network: Because We Were Born to Breed' group on Facebook, and seeing some of my friends 'Like' it. Their mission statement reads as follows:
Barebacking is proliferating for many reasons. I understand some of the reasoning is that there has been a generational turnover, a chasm of education and mentoring created because of the *ahem* first time this mindset ran amuck, major advances in the treatment of HIV and AIDS, in addition to a sea change in technology in the last decade, particularly in how we communicate with each other, and simply because we are as a demographic just plain tired of thinking and living with it, but this trend is extremely irresponsible and wrong. You can call me a hater or jealous all you want, I'll admit a hint of jealousy for the ease at which unprotected sex can happen because I'm a horny fuck as much as the next guy, but I'm certainly not a hater of those that do it, though I think they're wrong. I just don't understand the nonchalance and indifference. To me, this is a seriously dangerous trend. It's still an incurable condition that can kill you and gay men are still getting infected with it every day.
As much as barebacking proponents defend their stance and as much as I've quietly harboured that jealousy at poz guys for the appearance that they can fuck with abandon like it was in 'the good 'ol days' while us negative guys still have to wrap up and be concerned with all things STD, I think the whole notion of barebacking and promoting barebacking is A) selfish and irresponsible and B) dangerous and risky. I would never do it in a non-committed situation because there ARE consequences to this behaviour. Safe fucking is risky, unsafe fucking is madness.
Why is it selfish and irresponsible? It's a cop-out to say condoms suck. Yes, they might, but so does being poz. So does contracting a new strain of HIV or some completely new strain of holy-shit-what-the-fuck-is-that. I can't believe the indifference of our general population to this stuff, and in particular gay men who should know better. But I get it....it is simply another indication of how lame, lazy and stupid our community in particular, and society and civilization in general has become. Anyone can find an excuse or reason to support their worldview, even if it is absolutely delusional.
Why is it dangerous and risky? If you talk to any health professional, they will overwhemingly say it is. To mix all of these strains of viruses together is only inviting more hideous and difficult-to-treat variations to mutate and present themselves. The statistical increase in the possibility of this happening isn't only among the poz guys themselves, but possibly more dangerously among the population potentially yet to be converted...looking at it as a metaphor like they are a new frontier for the experiment to cultivate itself in and present new outcomes from...untraceable viral loads be damned.
There is a differentiation between practice and promotion. It's hard for me to defend my position on this while getting turned on by Dawson's 20 Load Weekend as much as anyone else. For those guys that practice it, go for it, I have no means of stopping you if I wanted to. And I am the first one to defend your freedom to fuck whomever you choose, however you choose. Government regulation has no business in the behaviour modification business. When it comes to sex, I think you should be protecting yourself from yourself and everyone else, but who am I to stop you from whatever way you want to do it or convince you otherwise? If I was poz it's possible I might practice the same behaviours. But for those that promote it, I think you are not being principled and yes, you do have the responsibility to promote responsible sex whether you think you do or not. You may not agree with me...that everyone has free will, but it's true. It's bullshit to think that people don't emulate the behaviors they see in porn or in the media. There are uneducated and/or indifferent men looking at your product and saying, "they are doing it that way; if they're doing it, I will too". By promoting a message of risky sexual practices, you are potentially encouraging the health crisis mentioned above. You may argue that it will happen eventually anyways, but why the fuck would you accelerate or encourage it?. As the Bareback Network states:
It is your responsibility to protect the people you're fucking with. You are positive WHY? Because you were irresponsible. Because you made a mistake or had a lapse of judgment. While you are trying to defend your bad decisions, you are endangering everyone around you with your philosophy. Nothing comes without consequence, yet some poz guys feel emboldened to promote recklessness because the after-effects of their bad decisions and unfortunate outcomes means there are no further consequences. I don't want to dump on poz guys and not all of them promote barebacking and ultimately it is the individual's decision to bareback or not, but to promote it as if there isn't an increased risk involved is crazy.
Some poz guys say that there is nothing daunting about being poz. Is that really true or is that what you convince yourself as being true? Do you have to take medication everyday? Do you have a dependency on the medical system? Does your treatment affect other aspects of your health, your body, or your life? Would you suffer if you suddenly didn't have access to your drug regimen? Then there is something intrinsically different about your situation that the rest of us don't have, right?
Using condoms is the respectful and intelligent thing to do for those you love or are lusting in the moment. How is saying we are genetically predisposed to breed naturally without barriers even an argument? It's the stupidest thing I've ever heard....well, maybe except the argument that the iPhone5 is so different it's worth lining up for and dumping hundreds of dollars on. We got into the HIV/AIDS quagmire because everyone was fucking in the 70s recklessly without protection; it isn't a leap to guess that it won't happen again in the future now that we're repeating the same behaviours again, decades later. We haven't learned a thing.
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FFS people...you're peeing your pants over a freaking smartphone that is only slightly incrementally better than the last four iterations of it like it's the second coming of Christ. At the same time you tsk tsk the company that produces it because of the deplorable treatment of unprotected workers on the assembly lines far far away reaping in mindboggling profits making it the biggest corporation on the planet? The hypocrisy is so thick I'm drowning in it.Whew, okay, that's the thing pissing me off at this point of the morning, the long-term thing that is pissing me off that I want to write about is barebacking.
Just to warn you...this is probably going to piss some people off. That's not my intent, but I have a very clear stance on this that I intend to hold for a long, long time. We're all (supposedly) free to make our own decisions, so keep in mind this is my OPINION only.
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We aim to promote respect, tolerance and help those who feel the same and those who want to share and have their rights to have their voices heard and freely express how they feel. And this will not depend of you being HIV+ or HIV-. We embrace union and understanding. Bareback (Unsafe sex) is not a 'privilege' or exclusive to HIV+ men only. But for any men out there who feel the same as the rest of us here! We welcome you and we are here to support and respect your own personal reasons.What the fuck has happened? Has everyone lost their minds? You want respect and tolerance because as a barebacker you feel society judges you? HUH???
Barebacking is proliferating for many reasons. I understand some of the reasoning is that there has been a generational turnover, a chasm of education and mentoring created because of the *ahem* first time this mindset ran amuck, major advances in the treatment of HIV and AIDS, in addition to a sea change in technology in the last decade, particularly in how we communicate with each other, and simply because we are as a demographic just plain tired of thinking and living with it, but this trend is extremely irresponsible and wrong. You can call me a hater or jealous all you want, I'll admit a hint of jealousy for the ease at which unprotected sex can happen because I'm a horny fuck as much as the next guy, but I'm certainly not a hater of those that do it, though I think they're wrong. I just don't understand the nonchalance and indifference. To me, this is a seriously dangerous trend. It's still an incurable condition that can kill you and gay men are still getting infected with it every day.
As much as barebacking proponents defend their stance and as much as I've quietly harboured that jealousy at poz guys for the appearance that they can fuck with abandon like it was in 'the good 'ol days' while us negative guys still have to wrap up and be concerned with all things STD, I think the whole notion of barebacking and promoting barebacking is A) selfish and irresponsible and B) dangerous and risky. I would never do it in a non-committed situation because there ARE consequences to this behaviour. Safe fucking is risky, unsafe fucking is madness.
Why is it selfish and irresponsible? It's a cop-out to say condoms suck. Yes, they might, but so does being poz. So does contracting a new strain of HIV or some completely new strain of holy-shit-what-the-fuck-is-that. I can't believe the indifference of our general population to this stuff, and in particular gay men who should know better. But I get it....it is simply another indication of how lame, lazy and stupid our community in particular, and society and civilization in general has become. Anyone can find an excuse or reason to support their worldview, even if it is absolutely delusional.
Why is it dangerous and risky? If you talk to any health professional, they will overwhemingly say it is. To mix all of these strains of viruses together is only inviting more hideous and difficult-to-treat variations to mutate and present themselves. The statistical increase in the possibility of this happening isn't only among the poz guys themselves, but possibly more dangerously among the population potentially yet to be converted...looking at it as a metaphor like they are a new frontier for the experiment to cultivate itself in and present new outcomes from...untraceable viral loads be damned.
There is a differentiation between practice and promotion. It's hard for me to defend my position on this while getting turned on by Dawson's 20 Load Weekend as much as anyone else. For those guys that practice it, go for it, I have no means of stopping you if I wanted to. And I am the first one to defend your freedom to fuck whomever you choose, however you choose. Government regulation has no business in the behaviour modification business. When it comes to sex, I think you should be protecting yourself from yourself and everyone else, but who am I to stop you from whatever way you want to do it or convince you otherwise? If I was poz it's possible I might practice the same behaviours. But for those that promote it, I think you are not being principled and yes, you do have the responsibility to promote responsible sex whether you think you do or not. You may not agree with me...that everyone has free will, but it's true. It's bullshit to think that people don't emulate the behaviors they see in porn or in the media. There are uneducated and/or indifferent men looking at your product and saying, "they are doing it that way; if they're doing it, I will too". By promoting a message of risky sexual practices, you are potentially encouraging the health crisis mentioned above. You may argue that it will happen eventually anyways, but why the fuck would you accelerate or encourage it?. As the Bareback Network states:
Bareback Station website will NOT be featured in any countries where GAY rights / human rights are not respected and any of those countries where HIV-AIDS is still a death sentence.HUH? Why the distinction when you are desiring global tolerance and respect for a arguably reckless group of behaviours? This appears to be selective communication to me, a want to only get a particular response. Promoting bareback sex is not going to win you any fans anywhere, gargantuan heath service institutions in place or not.
It is your responsibility to protect the people you're fucking with. You are positive WHY? Because you were irresponsible. Because you made a mistake or had a lapse of judgment. While you are trying to defend your bad decisions, you are endangering everyone around you with your philosophy. Nothing comes without consequence, yet some poz guys feel emboldened to promote recklessness because the after-effects of their bad decisions and unfortunate outcomes means there are no further consequences. I don't want to dump on poz guys and not all of them promote barebacking and ultimately it is the individual's decision to bareback or not, but to promote it as if there isn't an increased risk involved is crazy.
Some poz guys say that there is nothing daunting about being poz. Is that really true or is that what you convince yourself as being true? Do you have to take medication everyday? Do you have a dependency on the medical system? Does your treatment affect other aspects of your health, your body, or your life? Would you suffer if you suddenly didn't have access to your drug regimen? Then there is something intrinsically different about your situation that the rest of us don't have, right?
Using condoms is the respectful and intelligent thing to do for those you love or are lusting in the moment. How is saying we are genetically predisposed to breed naturally without barriers even an argument? It's the stupidest thing I've ever heard....well, maybe except the argument that the iPhone5 is so different it's worth lining up for and dumping hundreds of dollars on. We got into the HIV/AIDS quagmire because everyone was fucking in the 70s recklessly without protection; it isn't a leap to guess that it won't happen again in the future now that we're repeating the same behaviours again, decades later. We haven't learned a thing.
Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.
-George Santayana
Bubbling To The Surface
Just like the gases releasing from the Salton Sea this week, this view is dangerous and potentially lethal ;)
Monday, September 10, 2012
Sunday, September 9, 2012
Yes!
Had a great weekend camping in the mountains, next weekend is the Vancouver Men in Leather Whistler play weekend, and the following weekend is Folsom! I hope I can find myself in similar situations to this one over the next 15 days...
Friday, September 7, 2012
More Gratuitous Male Crotch Shots, Please
Olivia Newton-John played at the PNE here in Vancouver on Monday night, and this inspired me to find a bunch of her old music online and also led me to browse some old John Travolta stuff (BTW: she was AMAZING for an old bag....she's the same age as my mom!). Here is the film intro montage for 'Stayin' Alive'. I remember this so well from my youth; all those gratuitous male crotch and ass shots and hot sweaty men in tights. Has there been another movie since then that was so homoerotic and mainstream? I think THAT film genre fizzled out with the prudish Reagan years.
Another one of those 'salient moments' on my budding homo and perviness path? Perhaps. It was also the period when John Travolta was openly gay....*sigh*
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Another one of those 'salient moments' on my budding homo and perviness path? Perhaps. It was also the period when John Travolta was openly gay....*sigh*
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Closed System Repost Update
Does anyone know of any companies/individuals in the U.S. or Canada that are making similar respirator and rebreather systems? I'd prefer to find something non-eBay, though if someone can suggest some reputable store, I'd be willing to investigate. It would seem to me that a completed system would be cheaper than buying all the parts for it individually...
Thursday, September 6, 2012
Closed System Repost
I love love love this video. There are just so many things I agree with here. Can you believe I originally posted this over three years ago? Holy cow, time flies.
I would pay someone well to put this breathing system together for me.
Bodycondom Repost
From encased1.tumblr.com:
latex vacuum mummy - MyVideo
I just really, really like this video. I have attempted the same activity in the past, it is way more than fun, it is zen-inspiring.
latex vacuum mummy - MyVideo
I just really, really like this video. I have attempted the same activity in the past, it is way more than fun, it is zen-inspiring.
Wednesday, September 5, 2012
Conversion
WHEN: September 22, 2012 @ 5:00 PM - 9:00 PM
WHERE: Powerhouse
Folsom St & Dore St
San Francisco,CA 94103 USA
COST: $5 Public, Free for RMSF Members
Last Folsom we had a ‘QUARANTINE’ to isolate The Source of Kink so that we could battle the outbreak of vanilla.
Join us again to witness the ‘CONVERSION’ of The Agent who will penetrate the masses with a load of hot primal essence of kink!
After the party join RMSF in a processional to bring the Rubber Pride Flag to the Center for Sex and Culture where we will complete our campaign by dedicating a flag to the SF Leather Alliance to be included in all events for the San Francisco Leather Community.
Tuesday, September 4, 2012
From The Archives
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by Cyrique Lamar
Science fiction pioneer Hugo Gernsback wasn't simply the founder of Amazing Stories, the first scifi periodical — he was also a prolific inventor and futurist who regaled past generations with zany visions of Dalek-like killing machines and computer-mandated marriage examinations.
And Gernsback's greatest contribution to office culture was "The Isolator," a sound-proof helmet that was so airtight it required its own oxygen tank. Imagine the nonstop comedy if these were implemented widespread today.
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Gernsback revealed this device in the July 1925 issue of Science and Invention magazine, which included a photo of the inventor himself demonstrating its productivity-boosting qualities.I absolutely love how superfluous the fan and telephone are in the context of this illustration.
Never mind the fact that this semi-phallic helmet looks excruciatingly hot, rivals the Mickey Mouse gas mask in terms of creepiness, or that one runs the risk of asphyxiating during a moment of gasp-inducing brilliance. The Isolator was the true face of diligence.
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Monday, September 3, 2012
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